Self Care Ideas That Help When Life Feels Heavy
Self-care is often sold as bubble baths and early mornings. But when you’re overwhelmed, heartbroken or trying to rebuild your life, that version of self-care can feel completely out of touch. This guide is different. These are simple, realistic self-care ideas for women who are tired, stretched thin or starting over. It’s a companion piece to help you along on those days you feel deflated, or need a little pep talk.
Start Here if you are…
Feeling unsettled → What To Do When You’re Feeling Unsettled
Going through a breakup → Surviving the First 3 Days After a Breakup
Dealing with disappointment → Dealing with Disappointment
Looking to lower stress → Undoing Stress: How I Learned to Make Time to Unwind
Quick Self-Care Ideas You Can Do Today
Sometimes you need a reminder to go back to the basics. Here’s a list you can reference whenever you need it:
Drink a glass of water before coffee | Step outside for 5 minutes of fresh air | Put your phone on silent for 30 minutes | Write down everything stressing you out | Take a proper shower without rushing | Eat something with actual nutrients | Go to bed 30 minutes earlier | Say no to one thing today | Message someone who feels safe | Sit in silence for a few minutes
Do one of these today to start your habit of self-care. xx
Self-Care, Friendships, and Community
Tending to the relationship with yourself also involves managing your friendships and place in the community. Our sense of connection is a huge part of wellbeing. Here are a few articles that touch on building community, maintaining friendships and learning to uphold your boundaries.
Simple Ways to Connect With Others
How to Build a Community Around You
The Secret to Life-long Friendships? It’s the Little Things
Before You Cancel Those Plans With Friends Ask Yourself Why
Signs You’re in a One-Sided Relationship or Friendship and What to Do Next
Getting Back Into Dating After Divorce
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Not Settling: Deciding You Deserve Better In Your Relationships
Have you ever settled for something in your life? Maybe you were aware of what you were doing and resigned yourself..
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Your Guide to Surviving the First 3 Days of a Breakup
Whether you’re the one who initiated the split, or the one wo received the news, the emotional turmoil of a breakup can be overwhelming.
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A 3-Month Strategy to Dating Apps
Being someone who is good at managing different accounts, I always found managing the different personalities on dating apps to be a fun exercise. But the fun wears off really quick…
Protecting Your Time, Energy, and Mental Health
Dating after divorce can quickly become draining if you’re not clear on your boundaries. It’s easy to invest too much time in the wrong situations. This section focuses on protecting your time, energy, and mental health while dating so you don’t lose yourself in the process.
How to Protect Your Heart and Mind in a New Relationship
Why ‘Giving Things a Chance’ May Not Be the Best Strategy in Dating
Why You Shouldn’t Explain What You Want in the Getting-to-Know-You Stage of Dating
What to do if You’re in an On-Again Off-Again Relationship
Breakups and Healing
This collection of articles offers compassionate guidance and practical strategies to help you navigate the emotional turmoil of a breakup.
What to do During the First Month After a Breakup
What to do During Your Break From Dating
Signs You Might Be Ready to Start Dating Again
Month Two After a Breakup - What Now?
How I Knew I Was Healing After a Breakup
After a Breakup: Things that Might Feel Worse Before They Get Better
I very strongly believe that friendships form the bedrock of our most important personal relationships. These include more than the connections we have with our ‘bestie’s but also those with romantic partners and ourselves. At its core, friendship embodies understanding, empathy and mutual respect. Through friendship we learn to trust, confide in and support one another through life's triumphs and tribulations. My intent here is to explore these topics through my own observations and I hope that they will spark ideas that will be helpful for you.