I was never fully secure with them. I carried anxiety that I couldn’t quite explain, and I told myself it was worth it (despite the cheating) to hold onto something that felt so special.

If I could go back and give myself some advice this is what I would say:

The first month after a breakup can feel like a blur. Between sleepless nights, overthinking, and suddenly having a lot more time on your hands, it’s easy to act on impulse. People might warn you not to make any big changes — like getting bangs or an extreme haircut — and they’re not wrong

One of the hardest questions to answer after a breakup is whether or not you should stay friends with your ex. When you’ve shared years, memories, or even just a deep emotional bond with someone, it can feel strange—sometimes even painful—to consider cutting them out of your life completely.