After you yourself have gotten used to the idea, and told your kids, closest friends and family, you might then be wondering “Who do you tell about your divorce next?” Do you work with your ex to make a joint announcement? How do you tell mutual friends about the divorce?

This is a really big topic and one that I hope you spend a lot of time and care to do well because if you do the process can be so much easier. You will be shocked at the number of times you’ll be asked to pull up a document, or give an example of some action, or recall how much was spent during a specific period of time.

In layman’s terms it’s a period of time where you are no longer in a relationship with your partner but still living in the same household. For many reasons, people may have to do this during the divorce process.

I had a 10-year-old and a 1-year-old at the time that this all happened and in an ideal world I would have been there with their dad and together we would have told them what was happening.

I wasn’t given that chance.